My greatest buddy retains kissing and sleeping with me and saying it is platonic

DEAR ABBY: My “greatest buddy,” as he has labeled our relationship, moved in with me eight months in the past. He claims to haven’t any romantic emotions for me. Regardless of this, he sleeps in my mattress subsequent to me and kisses me. (He claims to be asleep when he does it and says he doesn’t bear in mind it taking place.) He encourages us to be sexually intimate and texts me each day “I miss you” messages once I depart city to go to my mother. 

He says he doesn’t wish to be with me as a result of “he doesn’t see me that approach.” He additionally talks to a different woman. He claims they’re additionally simply pals and have solely a platonic connection, however I’ve seen kissy emojis, miss you texts and nude pictures they’ve exchanged. 

I really feel used and requested him to depart, however he refused to acknowledge my request. Once I requested him why he lives with me, he stated it’s as a result of I’m a greater various to sleeping on his mother’s sofa subsequent to her canine. I can’t specific how painful it was to listen to that. 

At this level, he owes me $1,000 in unpaid lease, and I’m over feeling like I fell in love with somebody who doesn’t have the capability to like even himself. How do I get this man out of my home and out of my coronary heart so I now not really feel like a live-in maid, concubine, checking account, chef and private assistant in change for the privilege of being mistreated? — USED IN GEORGIA 

DEAR USED: How do you get this poor excuse for a person out of your coronary heart? From the tone of your letter, you might be already greater than midway there. Flip off the cash spigot, give up cooking and washing his garments for him, and when he climbs into your mattress, kick him out of it and inform him if he needs intercourse, to get it from his different “buddy.” It will be cash properly spent so that you can seek the advice of an lawyer about his refusal to depart your dwelling, as a result of it might take a proper eviction.

DEAR ABBY: My sister lately acquired engaged. I’m ecstatic for her. Her fiance is wonderful. We now have at all times been shut, and I’m going to be her maid of honor. The issue is, since they’ve been courting, and particularly now that they’re getting married, I’ve been jealous. I really feel like slightly inexperienced monster once I see them collectively. 

It’s not about her fiance — it’s that I can’t assist wishing I had somebody, too. It appears like a punch within the intestine once they’re being couple-y and I’m third-wheeling. I hate combating these emotions once I’m really completely happy for them each. However I really feel jealous after which responsible for feeling this manner and I’m sick of it tainting my real happiness. What ought to I do? — DON’T LIKE THIS FEELING

DEAR DON’T: I respect your willingness to come clean with your emotions. None of us is pleased with feeling jealous, however most of us have skilled a twinge at one time or one other. (This can be why it’s included within the listing of seven lethal sins.) Be glad your sister has discovered her soulmate, and please have religion that you’ll meet yours as properly. It could not occur at the moment or tomorrow, however at some point if you least anticipate it, you’ll flip round, and he can be there.

Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.